Handling frustration in the athletic administrator position
As an A.D., one of the first things you are going to realize is that life can be frustrating but that you don’t have to enjoy those occasions as long as you understand the dynamics behind them. That being said, you need to develop an approach for dealing with the frustrations.
As a matter of fact, it’s possible that if you are not occasionally frustrated as an athletic director you probably aren’t as involved and committed as you should be. This may be a little extreme, but it does let us know that frustration is an unfortunate companion in our position.Frustration often stems from several possible factors; you may have to deal with:
- Difficult, challenging individuals in the form of coaches, parents or supervisors on a repeated basis.
- Impossible time constraints which include extremely short due dates.
- Situations in which you have no input and have to deal with restrictive policies and procedures.
- Long, exhausting days and weeks with little time to relax and regenerate.
- While this is not an all-inclusive list, you get the idea. Whenever you have little or no control, options, or hope, frustration may develop.This is not to say that athletic directors are the only professionals who possibly face frustration in their positions, but as the most visible aspect of education we are under scrutiny in everything we do.
Since frustration will hit all of us at some point, how do we handle it?
1. Try to figure out the source of your frustration. Determine if there are any alternatives you might use to alleviate it.
2. Develop due dates a day or two earlier than actually needed for information supplied by your coaches. For example, eligibility or tourney entry forms. (This will provide you with a buffer before your actual deadline has to be met.)
3. Avoid the source of your frustration if you can. Obviously, you have to meet deadlines for transportation, field lining schedules and many other responsibilities. But it might be possible to limit your interaction with difficult individuals, greatly helping you to decrease your frustration level.
4. Offer suggestions whenever possible for more effective working relationships with coaches, booster clubs, and faculty members. This is not to suggest that you shouldnt also try to take this approach with your supervisors, but realistically this tactic may not ultimately be accepted.
5. Control what you can in your schedule. The lack of this element is often a prime source of frustration. If a problem arises, try to determine what parts you can handle and those for which you may need help. If a due date is involved, for example, perhaps you can get an extension after explaining the problem.
6. Take a walk to decompress after unsettling confrontations with a challenging individual. Always resist the urge to quickly respond to such aggravating encounters. It is always better to regain your composure, regain your ability to think through the situation, and to come up with an appropriate solution or approach.
7. Realize that most other athletic administrators experience the same or similar frustrations. While you may still have to contend with a problem, you are not alone. In our small fraternity of athletic directors, a possible solution is a simple inquiry to a colleague.
8. Don’t allow frustration, regardless of the source, to creep into or carry over to your next interaction with other individuals. This goes back to a basic principle of teaching. Whenever the next class enters, the previous one becomes history and the students now require your full attention and effort.
9. Try to model the attributes that you expect in others and avoid behaviors or actions which cause you frustration. Always be positive, on time, encouraging, honest, supportive, and professional. Being a role model for your coaches, parents, and athletes should also include effective methods for handling frustration.
10. Remind yourself periodically of the real meaning of frustration. It will show that you care about your responsibilities, role, and the individuals in your program. Without this trait, not much of value is accomplished.
The key to effectively dealing with frustration is to limit its extent so that it doesn’t become debilitating. Though frustration will affect us at times, we have to recover quickly and move on to our next task with our normal enthusiasm, energy and commitment.